Blame

Blaming leaves you powerless

 

 

When we blame someone else for a problem in our life, we are giving them power over us. We are trying to give the responsibility for a situation to someone other than ourselves. While people can do things that affect our life, the outcome and the blame rests on our shoulders. We can choose to let that situation rule over everything that we say or do. Or, we can let it go. When we blame someone else for our life being a mess, we are acknowledging that we are helpless. We are recognizing that we have no power, because we are choosing to let a circumstance or person have that power.

 

Most people who blame someone else for their problems do not want to recognize their own faults and flaws. And when they do this, they will never overcome the obstacle that is in their way. At some point, to move forward in your life, you must acknowledge that holding onto those emotions that come with blame is doing nothing but harming yourself. Holding onto resentment, anger, frustration, or blame is not healthy. Blaming someone else for your problems isn’t either.

 

One of the biggest obstacles I see with clients is when they want to hold onto blame. Let go of blame. It doesn’t mean you have to forget what someone did to you. But you can be mature enough to forgive them. Forgiving them means setting yourself free. Letting go of blame will allow you to move forward and put the past behind you where it belongs.